let's have a hug-o-war
it's funny to be in the middle of something. like an argument. it's interesting to be the one who sees both sides and not get wrapped up in one side or the other and make a judgement (out-loud, anyway). it's hard to not BE the communicator and just say, "oh hell, she this and he that and then this... get it? that's how they see it."
it's enlightening (is it?) to be the one to simply encourage communication and not DO the communicating. i refuse to take sides. won't do it. it's between them and, honestly, i see it both ways. that's what's so fascinating. large chunks of information are missing on both sides. just facts. details. nothing more. those facts and details though, have spawned numerous assumptions and emotional uproar.
it seems to me, no fresh, new, healthy communication can happen until all that's been said and not said, gets said. all the misunderstandings get understood. everything that's there for either party involved must be laid out like a hand of cards. only then can a new game begin.
